Would you like a 'Happy Divorce'?...... Read onLife is all about how we perceive it. Interesting isn’t it? Some of us may see a car accident as lucky because we weren’t seriously injured, while others see that same car accident as just another thing gone wrong in a series of many things gone wrong.Simplistically, we say that the former is an optimist and the latter a pessimist. If we are to look into this more deeply, we will find that each of the reactions is merely a matter of perception. The car accident is no different, but how each participant views the accident is.
The first step in having a Happy Divorce is visualizing the outcome you want. Visualize well-adjusted children, an amicable relationship with your ex, a life full of love, freedom and choices. By focusing on what you want, you will create your own Happy Divorce reality. Every time you start to feel anxious or depressed, focus on how you will live when it is all over. See yourself smiling, breathing easier, and knowing that you will be happier and healthier than you were before. While it is true that a Divorce is an ending, understand that to create a Happy Divorce means to also create a fresh start - a new beginning. You can now end the chapter and close the cover on the story that was your marriage and move on to the next step.This path you are following is full of new opportunities for every part of your life. You can now take that cooking class you have always wanted to take, or that vacation your ex would never go with you to. You will also be able to start to date and look for those aspects you were missing in your marriage. By keeping your mind and your heart open, your new found independence will lead to many amazing prospects both personally and professionally.Perhaps you would like to take this opportunity to simplify your life?Look around at all of the “stuff” you have accumulated and start to cleanse. Don’t be afraid to throw things away. Bring clothing that you haven’t worn in the last six months to Goodwill / local Charity stores or the local Battered Women’s Shelter. Give away that second Ice Cream Maker you never use, or the waffle maker you received at your wedding from Auntie Mavis that you never liked!Help to make this a Happy Divorce and a positive change in your life for you AND your family. If you need to move, think about what kind of home you would like. If it is financially necessary to move into a smaller home, then it is still quite possible to find a house that you can truly call home. Envisage what you want, and how the house will feel when you are in it before you go on your home search. Remember, wherever you end up, will be a better living environment than where you were before your Divorce. You will no longer be in that unpleasant atmosphere, full of fighting and stress. Now you will be able to accomplish all of those things you have always wanted to.
Feel the freedom and sense the possibilities that your divorce can provide.
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